Sometimes it will feel like everything is happening all at once. You have a feeling like the universe just conspired against you and made an exact plan of how things will keeping going left, one after the other. And even after that is over, the consequences will be felt for a long time. It is so easy to fall into the victim narrative and lose the sight of the bigger picture. An overwhelming wave of disappointment and hopelessness takes over your mind and body, and it feels like there is no way out. This one period in life made you lose your faith in humanity and life all together and it feels like there is no point. So how do you find the point again?
The bad thing is – you can not control what is happening in life. The good thing is – you can control how you react to those things. A big part of our misery and stress just plays out in our heads, not in real life. You are not your thoughts and not your pain. Everything that you feel is not necessary the truth. Having thoughts and emotions are a big part of the human experience, but it is important not to become their slave. I know, it sounds confusing – our whole life we are taught how important it is not to be superficial, that you are more than your body and the inner world is what truly matters and here am I saying that not even that is the true essence of living. Not to confuse you too much, let’s just say that there are dimensions to consciousness, which means that there is hope and a way out.
Imagine yourself as something beyond the body and even your thoughts and emotions – a higher entity, like a soul or spirit. Imagine looking at your own situation from this third perspective of a good friend – what would you tell yourself? Be kind to yourself and have patience, trust the journey and give yourself time to just be. Slow down and observe your mind – is it stuck in a negative loop? Well, what if I told you, that if you repeat to yourself often enough how you are in control of your life and everything that happens to you – that one day, you will just believe it and it will happen. You will just wake up one morning with the mindset shift and everything will start making sense again. The sun will shine and the birds will be singing – you can wake up in a Disney reality, if you choose to. The first step is to recognize that you have an issue or are just dissatisfied with the current situation. The second step – the will become better. After that, with enough time given, things should fall into their places, because the brain has this fascinating ability of wanting and needing to survive, of being able to heal itself and following the path of which you convinced yourself of.
A more concrete example of finding your way back – remember the time in your life when you felt most alive. What brought you joy, what couldn’t you wait for and were super happy every time it happened, when you were a child for example, or a young adult. Was it going to the zoo, eating an ice cream or watching movies with your friends? Remember what soothed your soul and try to apply it in this life that you have today – and who knows, it might do some miracles. What important though is, is that you never lose hope and faith in people, otherwise it will make you miserable and you will see the world through the lens of scepticism and negativity. Depending on how far along on your journey you are, never stop researching and exploring, since there is no universal cure. What worked for me, might not work for you, but the more you try out, the more likely you will be to find just the thing that works for you.
Humans are fascinating creatures and there is one thing you can be sure of – people will keep peopling. There is no way of controlling them or predicting how they will behave and once you embrace it, it will become way easier to live. Nothing in this life is promised, except for death, so be grateful for everything you get before that. Expecting things from others and taking people for granted will make this world a living hell and create the victimhood. Being human is super, being able to love is super and once you start radiating that – you will attract more, of that I can assure you.
Start creating and more will be created for you.
Love,
Faja
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