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Writer's pictureFaina Ja

Your feelings are real, but not always right

Hello beautiful people, and welcome to the new year of 2024. I salute you for making it this far, and don't forget to give yourself due credit for reaching this point. If there is one question I'd suggest you ask yourself while transitioning into this first month of the year, it is the following: Would you have loved to meet your current self ten years ago? My answer was very positive, serving as a sign for me to get back out there and share my experiences.

 

While recently walking down the street, I came across the following thought: "Your feelings are real, but not always right." In light of the current events in my life, I would love to share this wisdom with all of you, as it resonated deeply with my soul. Being human can be confusing, and simply navigating day-to-day life is not as easy as it once may have been. What I struggle with the most is deciding which current to follow. This is ironic, considering I am creating another wave of thoughts myself, but that is not the point.

 

It can be challenging at times to decide which advice to take and which to ignore. It may get confusing as to which path is right—should you align with yourself and listen to your heart, or should you tough it out and do the rational thing?

 

In my opinion, this challenge is applicable to both genders. Our society is experiencing dynamic times, making it hard to discern who is telling the truth and who is manipulating you for their own gain. The first rule I go by is that if you are not paying for the product, then you are the product yourself. While this is fine at times, ensuring you get value for your time or money spent, being aware of this fact might save you some headaches in the future.

 

The second habit I swear by is being critical. Always ask for proof and sources. Not a single claim should be made out of the blue, and the individuals in question should be prepared with well-founded arguments. This approach might make you somewhat cynical, or it could help you avoid some naive mistakes, depending on how you decide to view it. The validity of scientific research and statistical methods could be a topic by itself for another article.

 

And finally, the big old mystery of those feelings. Everyone has their own journey to take in life, their own speed of development, and a unique path to follow. There is no right or wrong way, just the one you choose to take. Giving yourself enough validation might fill up that emptiness that you otherwise could have tried to fill with unhealthy coping mechanisms. As social creatures, we crave belonging, but finding your tribe might take a while sometimes. Yet, being honest with yourself and aware of your own shortcomings gives you just enough space for growth and perfection. The combination of both is what fascinated me about this statement, and I don't think I will forget it anytime soon.

 

Life is a series of random events. The sum of past circumstances brought you to this one specific moment. Being grateful for your journey opens up new possibilities and encourages you to take that leap of faith into the unknown. This might sound like a cliche, but see it as a friendly reminder: don't be afraid to tell people that you care about them and that you are thankful for having met them. You never know that it was the good old times until the moment has passed, and you're reflecting on it sometime in the future.

 

"How are you going to love somebody else if you can't love yourself?"

Faja




 

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